It is known that self-control can be defined as the ability to act according to what we want, avoiding the negative consequences that may have our conduct Alexis Hill, in this regard reminds us, that emotions give us many clues about why do we do what we do. Its deletion will deprive us of this information. On the other hand, try to suppress them does not disappear; It leaves them free to jump in any time.Control of emotions is something very different from its deletion. Means understanding them, and then use this understanding to transform situations on our behalf. For Goleman, two primary skills of the self-regulation (managing impulses and deal with the concerns) are at the heart of five emotional skills which are: 1 – self-control. Effectively handle the emotions and impulses perjudiciales.2 – reliability. Exhibit honesty integridad.3-conscientiousness. Responsibility in compliance with the obligaciones.4-adaptability.
Flexibility to handle changes and desafios.5-innovation. Be open to ideas and novel approaches and new information. Goleman suggests that persons who demonstrate self-control:-they handle well the impulsive feelings and emotions disturbing.-composite, and are kept positive imperturbable, even in difficult times.-they think clearly and not lose concentration when they are subjected to pressure Hill tells us also, that is important to always take into account, which are our own thoughts, body changes and behaviors that trigger our emotional responses, and not the actions of another person or external developments. The power to control our cholera, and echo, all emotions, is in our hands, and not in our unfriendly boss or another person, and that the domain of our anger supposed to take charge of our emotional system components. States us, to consider self-control as a fitness and essential emotional intelligence skills. In addition, among other things, involves identifying how influence our reactions factors such as: our thoughts and assessments; the physiological changes that we are experiencing in certain situations; and behaviours and actions to which we tend.To make us responsible for our thoughts and ratings is recommended: determine our automatic thoughts, as well as our distorted thoughts.
To deal with them can go to techniques such as: Interior dialogues, and the preparation of positive affirmations on the other hand, we should also worry about maintaining a personal discipline pro our growth, knowing optimize our efforts, life in pro enjoy it extensively while giving us the opportunity to stay with the way that you gave us. Optimize our time, set goals to achieve and assure us that their results have strengthened our spirit. One should surprise inattentive in their actions, determine how this has generated a behavior that may be affecting our growth and that the demand of a discipline, rules, rules that we must establish ourselves in order to give our self-control solvency and that our results encourage us, inviting us always be attentive in the way how we interrelacionamos, we act. It should not be forgotten that when we identify ourselves with discipline, responsibility for our growth, we are taking step to positive habits that settle in our life with success, fulfilling what he says, that it is a test that we control our lives and ensure happiness, achievement. Leaving fought randomly all the circumstances of our life is not a wise decision, some indicate. There will be things Yes, but in general it requires a bit of discipline, willingness to establish positive and healthy habits in our lives.